You may remember the above video from a recent television advert which was made by the Home Office specifically for young people to raise awareness of domestic abuse in relationships.
The Government defines domestic abuse (also known domestic violence) as;
"Any incident of threatening behaviour, violence or abuse (psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional) between adults who are or have been intimate partners or family members, regardless of gender or sexuality."
Abuse can happen to anyone and is not ok. A good relationship with someone is based on love, respect and freedom to be yourself. There are different forms of abuse;
- Pressure. A partner may pressure you into having sex with them by saying ‘if you loved me you would’.
- Name calling and threats.
- Control. They might check your phone to see who you’ve been calling or texting or they could try and stop you seeing your friends and family.
- Physical abuse, such as hitting you if you don’t do what they want you to do.
- Anger, jealousy and possessiveness. They might get angry when you want to spend time with your friends and not them.
- Emotional abuse such as putting you down or lowering your self esteem.
- Sexual violence.
Domestic abuse can affect various types of relationships such as the relationship between you and your parents, or relationships you have with a boyfriend or girlfriend.
Are you in an abusive relationship? Does your partner often make you feel scared, intimidated or controlled? Try taking a quick relationship checklist or a questionnaire about recognising domestic violence.
www.thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk is a really good website for information about abuse and can answer any questions you have.
If you are in an abusive relationship or know someone that is, or think someone is, there are lots of people you can speak to or places you can go to get support;
- Visit www.thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk, use their live chat section to speak to an adviser or leave them a message and an adviser will get back to you.
- Broken Rainbow offers support for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people experiencing domestic violence.
- Visit ChildLine or call 0800 11 11
- www.thinkuknow.co.uk offers advice to young people on sex, relationships and the internet.
- Women’s aid is the key national domestic violence charity. Visit www.womensaid.org.uk or call 0808 2000 247.
- Speak to someone you can trust such as a family member, friend, teacher or an MYT Adviser.